Day 366: Ending At The Beginning

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!

Well my friends…my time is up, and it is time to say farewell to this chapter of my life. Yes, it’s true…my one year blog journey is officially over. I am ending where I began.

The original idea of this journey was borne out of an ironic twist of fate that stemmed from a tumultuous past relationship (which is too long to explain here); and it ended in forgiveness in a most beautiful, harmonious, and synchronistical fashion with that same person…two days before the end of this blog. Thus my reason for saying, it ends where it began. An evolutionary unfolding has come full circle.

This past year has been an interesting one to say the least, and I am grateful for every moment of it. It was surely quite the learning experience. I laughed, I cried, I failed, I learned from it, I got up and tried again. I got really real with myself, I found my voice, I learned how to use it, I learned how to clearly communicate, and I learned about self-respect, self value, self worth, and self-confidence. I found my passion, got committed to changing my health, put myself first for the first time, got really clear on what I wanted, got focused, took action, never gave up, and refused to settle for less.

And then I laughed and learned some more.

I learned that with surrender comes peace; and is not to be confused with defeat, giving up, or giving in.

I learned that there are no mistakes, no dumb luck, no coincidences, and nothing is by chances; but rather everything is perfect in its unfolding exactly the way it is…even if I do not know why in that moment.

I learned that I am neither the pitcher nor the batter…I am both. I can throw the curveball AND bat it out of the ballpark at the same time.

And finally, I learned that I am my most important investment, and if I want to see something different outwardly, I must first start inwardly.

So what’s next for me? I guess you will have to wait and see! I do promise however, that Chapter Two will be even better than the last. So stay tuned. ;o)

Day 340: On With The Show! More Funny Date Stories

It was brought to my attention today when someone asked about Mr. Elevator that perhaps I should update my blog, as I haven’t blogged in a REALLY long time…and there has been a LOT going on since I last posted.

First off, there is no Mr. Elevator. Mr. Elevator decided to get off on another floor, and it wasn’t mine. No big deal though, I learned what I needed too and moved on.

Then I met someone I thought was for sure my Prince Charming. Unfortunately, Mr. PC wasn’t as charming as I thought and has since been re-named Mr. Magic, as it turned out to be an absolute GONG SHOW with a rather convenient disappearing act. Believe it or not though, I actually feel gratitude. It was a blessing in disguise. I figure that I’d rather know what someone is like sooner rather than later, especially in the heat of fire. A person’s true colours will always show up, and when it happens this early on it just means that he just saved me a lot of heartache down the road.

I am curious though…is it them or is it me? I mean, I have dated guys from all different countries around the world and I have to tell you, Vancouver men are...well...different. Not ALL of them of course, as I know a lot of really phenomenal guys here that have become super awesome friends. I just apparently attract or am attracted to the “special” ones. HA! I keep bumping into the most bizarre scenarios here....but only here. Even my brother seems to agree with me, and we are both scratching our heads about it.

But you know what? I am a trooper. If I had a theme song it would be this:  

That’s right.

So I am going to change it up a bit. Since apparently “I” am not the best at choosing guys for myself, I am going to let someone else do it. Hey, they always say “It will happen when you’re not looking!” Well, I am not looking…someone else is.   :o)

Now you have to understand, this is a risky thing for me. I mean, the first (and consequently last) time I was set up on a blind date by a friend, not only was the guy old enough to be my father and absolutely NOT my type, he also thought it would be ok to catch me by surprise and ram his tongue down my throat at the end of the night as I was visibly clamoring for the door handle and asking for the car lights so I could get out of his locked vehicle as he dropped me off. Yeah…gross. You can bet I scrubbed my mouth out a little extra that night, along with some mental bleach to erase that scenario from my mind. Can you imagine? To give you a mental picture of my experience, it would be like YOU making out with YOUR dad. Yeah I know…gross eh? It was a definite WTF moment.

“Can you please turn on the ligh-***(nom nom)***...Did you just?!? No you didn’t. Yes you did! Please unlock the door.” Exit stage right.

But this time will be different…I hope. I was actually approached twice now in the past two months by a dating headhunting company called Executive Search Dating. I checked out their website so they seemed pretty legit, and I have had a friend try it once before and she seemed to like it. So I figured - what the hay why not! At least these guys are screened. Lol

The fun starts this February, so stay tuned!

And if this doesn’t work, then I am going to Europe or South America for a change of scenery.


What are your thoughts?

Day 274: What Is Your Love Language?

When you are genuinely interested in someone, it would be wise to stay curious. Get to know them. And I don’t mean the “What’s your favorite colour?” kind of curiosity, although there’s nothing wrong with knowing that either.  What I mean is get to know who they are – their needs, their personality, how they think, how they express and communicate love, etc. I mean, if you want in for the long-haul, it might be a good idea to know what makes their motor run don’t you think?

We’ve all heard it before – communication is key. It really is. And now that I am in the beginning phase of a relationship again, I am just starting to grasp what exactly that means. It’s about understanding. Not sure what I mean? Let me share with you.

You see, I just discovered that Mr. Elevator and I have different love languages, which means we express and receive love differently. How I express it to him and how I want to receive it back are different than how he expresses it and how he needs to receive it back. Why is this important? Well, have you ever tried filling a diesel tank with gas instead? (I have. Oops!) The vehicle won’t go very far will it! Even though both diesel and gas are types of fuel, one is a better fit for that particular engine and is what fuels the car to go forward. Same thing applies for relationships. Filling the other person’s “love tank” with the correct fuel will make it go the distance; however, fill it with the wrong one and you are destined to go to the repair shop. Catch my drift?

So what are these love languages I speak of? Check out the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. I read it five years ago, and I am re-reading it again. In a nutshell, the five love languages are this:

1.       Words of Affirmation

2.       Quality Time

3.       Receiving Gifts

4.       Acts of Service

5.       Physical Touch

Before you go trying to figure out the other person though, I suggest figuring out what yours are first. Get to know thy self. Do you know what your love language is? Not sure? Here’s a hint: it’s usually the one(s) you do the most. Mine are words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch…probably in that order too. What are yours?

If you’re in a relationship, but not feeling “full” then chances are you are simply communicating differently. First, get curious as to what makes the other person feel appreciated and do more of that. Second, they are not mind readers. Tell them what you want. Chances are, if they truly care, that they will want you to feel good too.

Seek first to understand…then to be understood.