Day 13: A Woman's Worth

There will be days when I write in humor and jest, and there will be days when I don’t, where I will write with a more serious introspection instead. You will get the full spectrum of me throughout the year, and today you will be getting the latter.

Last night I made you aware of my lack of sleep and nocturnal habits, so today after work I did something about it. I took a “time out” for me to sleep for a couple hours in the Zen peace of my own massage studio, and do what I tell everybody else who comes to see me “to let go and get away from it all.” I did exactly that, and it was the best, most peaceful and restful sleep I have had in a long while. All thoughts, feelings, stress, and the like disappeared in the candlelight as soon as my head hit the pillow and my body melted into the heated table. Why I don’t do this more often I don’t know. but I think I will from now on. It’s pretty heavenly.

Today’s topic is a rather large one, “A Woman’s Worth”, and in no way can be reduced to a single blog posting on it. To do so would be a massive injustice. As one of my Twitter followers says, “I don’t think there are words to describe a woman’s worth”, and I agree with him/her. So I’m just going to speak on a small portion of it that relates to something that happened today. I imagine this one might spark some controversy and conversations. Here it goes.

These days I find that I get tested on my commitments a lot, mostly in the area of relationships, and today was no exception. I have to admit, it’s tough with all the distractions. I get asked all the time for the “friends with benefits” package, to which I’ll always respond no. To me, that already tells me that they do not know the value of a woman, and I would be heading down a path of heartache I do not wish to travel. I’ve learned, and I’m much smarter than that. I know my value, and I know that I’m worth more than someone’s cheap sexual fix. No thanks, I’ll pass. I’m looking for a quality companion that reflects and compliments who I am. Someday, I WILL meet someone who understands what I’m talking about and who value themselves just as much.

That being said, these situations do allow me to get very clear and even more committed to what it is I want every single time. I love how the Universe puts distractions in the way to see how serious you are about your goal, often to see if you will settle for less and undermine your own worth. That’s my take on it anyway. It reminds me of a quote that goes a little something like this:

“Walls or obstacles weren’t put in the way to stop you from achieving your goal, they are there to see how bad you want that goal, and if you are willing to climb the wall to get it.”

Well, I’ve seen what’s on the other side, so I’m climbing. Up and over I go, and if I fall, I’ll get back up and do it again. I tell you, nothing can get in the way of a self-respecting woman geared with determination.

If you haven’t already heard the song “A Woman’s Worth” by Alicia Keys, I highly recommend giving it a listen. It talks about seeing the value in each other; to love, respect, and appreciate each other - and how when you do these things you can have everything…and if you don’t you will just as easily lose everything.

Here’s to hoping you find the “real man” …or “real woman” that you truly deserve. Enjoy the video.

"A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys

You could buy me diamonds, you could buy me pearls
Take me on a cruise around the world
Baby you know I'm worth it
Dinner lit by candles, run my bubble bath
Make love tenderly to last and last
Baby you know I'm worth it
Wanna please wanna keep wanna treat your woman right
Not just told but to show that you know she is worth your time
You will lose if you choose to refuse to put her first
She will if she can't find a man who knows her worth, mhmn

Cuz a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

If you treat me fairly I'll give you all my goods
Treat you like a real woman should
Baby I know you're worth it
If you never play me, promise not to bluff
I'll hold you down when shit gets rough
Baby I know you're worth it
She rolls the mile makes you smile all the while being true
Don't take for granted the passion that she has for you
You will lose if you choose to refuse to put her first
She will if she can't find a man who knows her worth, oh

Cuz a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

No need to read between the lines, spell it out for you
Just hear this song cuz you can't go wrong when you value
A woman, woman, woman, a woman's worth

Cuz a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

Cuz a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth