Day 6: Proof that Mr. Right DOES Exist

*If you are a guy, you will DEFINITELY want to read this!*

I’m not sure if you already know this, so I’ll say it anyways, my posts go both ways. My blog is Bi. This blog is not JUST for women, it’s for men too. (And quite honestly, a smart man will pay extra attention if he wants to demystify the mind of a woman and finally understand what she wants in order to have a smoother sailing relationship. If you think about it I’m like an ace up your sleeve, as most people are looking for the same basic things). So whether you are looking to attract Mr. Right or Mrs. Right, the 365 day journey is still the same, and anything I write here applies to both. Capiche? Good.

 So I received a rather inspiring letter today that I can’t shake from my mind. It was a letter from an anonymous woman who has been following my blog, who also felt the need to share with me her story about love and finding her Mr. Right. She is a woman after my own heart. It was as if she took the thoughts in MY own mind of who I am, what I believe, and what I want in someone…and then penned them to paper. Perhaps she is a kindred spirit of some sort. I found her letter beautiful and moving and thus asked her if I could share it with all of you as a source of hope and inspiration…and knowing that all that we seek truly does exist. With her permission, I shall share it with you now. Enjoy!

“I read your blog, and saw all the pictures you had cut out and pasted as a poster of what your relationship will look like...and I thought of my own Mr. Right. I wasn't sure if I would ever find him. Like you, ideas of him have been in my heart and mind for what seems like an eternity. I knew he existed because I could feel him, and sometimes the aching pain I felt for someone I hadn’t even met yet was very confusing. Unfortunately, it has taken me 39 years to find out what love is all about, however if this is the road I had to take to get me to here then it was well worth the trip. My Mr. Right says the same thing. After my failed marriage, I knew I wasn't going to go through this again for just anyone. I was quite prepared to go through life alone just for the simple fact that I wasn't going to settle for second best. I knew what I wanted in a man. And I knew what I wanted in myself. It’s so easy to lose yourself when you are in a relationship. I have done it every time - except for this one! Instead of losing myself I feel like I am finding myself. I have always been independent. Since becoming single my independence has been more important to me than ever; to make it with or without having someone special in my life. Not to have someone COMPLETE me, but to have someone COMPLIMENT me. I am already complete. Don't confuse that statement. I am independent, and I am who I want to be with room for improvements and higher goals.

Nicole, the reason I am sharing this with you is for a couple of reasons. I am writing to you because you are on a journey as well and you get it. I am also writing to you because I know you can see my happiness, where others can't. I need to say it, write it, share it, so who better than you.

So why do I love my Mr. Right? That’s easy. He is my best friend. He is the person I share with. I can tell him anything and not be afraid - and he does the same with me. It’s easy and it’s natural. He makes me smile. He is not the reason for my smile, but he adds smiles to my face, and laughter in my life. He doesn't take away from me but gives to me, supports me, encourages me, and protects me. He is vulnerable, and gets scared, and he admits this even when he's scared to. You know, it’s harder to admit your fears to the person you are in the relationship with, which means he trusts me, the same as I trust him. I admire him for all that he has been through, and he is still working at being the best he can be. He is not afraid to dream, and has opened me up to thinking about dreams, whether it be accomplishments, travel, goals, what I want in this world and not being afraid to go out and get it.

We talk. We talk all the time, several times a day, about a lot of things and sometimes about nothing at all. But we never run out of things to talk about, and it always feels like it’s the best conversation I ever had.

He does the little things, you know, the little things you always want a guy to do, but they don't do. He does them without me asking, without a thought, out of the blue, for no reason at all except that he wants too because he cares and because he was thinking of me. It's those little surprises that give you new reasons to fall in love with the same person over and over again. It’s those moments that make something about every day special.  It’s those moments that make you realize and assure you that you have everything you asked for. When they do those little things, you automatically think “I love you.”

He lets me know that I am perfect, and yet knows my faults (even though I know I sometimes drive him crazy). He tests my boundaries, not for his own benefit but for me to widen mine - to not be afraid of new things.

He is thoughtful in all the right ways. How? I will tell you. From everything I've already said, to the other little things like buying me black licorice treats when he goes to the store, not because I asked, not because he likes them (because he doesn't…he thinks they are gross), but because he knows I do. It makes him happy to make me happy. And it tells me that he thinks about me. It’s the coming out of the convenience store with an ice cream surprise because he thought of me, because he wondered if I ever tried it before, because he is spoiling me. It’s the phone calls that I get, it’s the messages that he leaves saying “I just wanted to let you know I love you, or the phone call saying “I still remember our first kiss”. It’s the way our heart breaks when we have to say good-bye, not because I can't live without him but because I don't want to. It’s knowing that his presence makes the days of your life that much better even when things go wrong. It's knowing that you want to give him everything, and would give him everything and realizing that you aren't sacrificing yourself. Not giving so much that you have nothing left for yourself, because he gives it all back to you. It's the look in his eyes when he's looking at you, and all the things that he says and does that tells you that every word has meaning, and comes from his heart.

These guys really do exist Nicole, and yours is out there.”