Ok, I know I said I would write a specialty blog today, however it is not ready and I would rather spend the proper time towards doing it right rather than slap something together. Not my style. I should have it ready for you tomorrow though, so hang tight.
Now if you remember, my roommates are Korean, so we learn a lot about each other; our cultural differences…and our similarities. This particular conversation was around relationships and boys, and what I am looking for in a relationship. So when I told them that I would be interested in dating a man who already has kids, my roommates where shocked and stared at me with eyes as big as saucers.
“But he would have kids!”
“Yes.”
“That doesn’t bother you?”
“Nope. I prefer it that way. No pressure on me to have any.”
(Wide eyed) “But why?”
“Why not?”
For me it is no big deal, I have done it before. If I like the guy, I like the guy…and kids are all part of the package. I have never really followed the status quo, and I don’t want what everyone else wants either. I am not looking for Mr. Perfect, I am looking for Mr. Perfect-For-Me. And you know what, as long as I am happy I don’t really care what other people THINK I should do. I am 99.99% sure I don’t want kids of my own, and have been pretty firm on that since I was 18yrs old; so I am either looking for someone who doesn’t want any or already has them. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE kids…I just don’t want to birth any.
And apparently I am not alone. Since I have been sharing pretty much everything with you guys, I have found more women like me. Not all of us are dying to get into the white dress and have kids of our own you know.
To each their own.
I have no desire to have children of my own. I have known this for a very, very long time. I have nothing against children - I love my nieces and nephews to bits - but I love my freedom and my life as is and I feel complete without children. I have quite a few friends in their 30s that don't want/have kids. Seems to be growing in popularity. In fact, I recently heard about an international social group that is specifically for adults who have never had children - http://www.nokidding.net/index.html. They have chapters in Winnipeg and in Vancouver!
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments little gray bird! I really appreciate it because I feel the same way. And thanks for the link too, I will definitely have to check it out! It helps in making relationship decisions when both people start off on the same page. :)
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