Day 224: I Have Something to Tell You

Right from the get-go I said I would always be honest with you. Honesty, after all, is what trust is built upon…and trust in my opinion is something to be earned. So for the sake of my own integrity to me, to you, and the intention behind this blog, I have to tell you something:

I met someone recently…in the elevator…in my OWN building of all places.

And I have to tell you, I nearly broke my manbatical promise. Well technically I broke my zero contact rule because I kissed him…once…but I didn’t full out break ALL of it. So I feel it is still salvageable, or at least that’s how I am rationalizing it. LOL  

Take it from me though, it was a serious lesson learned. I actually still feel a bit guilty. But it was not necessarily because I cracked in a moment of weakness; it is because I actually felt like I was cheating on my own self by breaking my own word. Today I learned the importance of keeping my word. And you know what else I learned? The worst kind of broken promise is the one you don’t keep to you.

So after much contemplation and a few conversations with people I trust (both friends and family), who are also totally supportive of my year-long manbatical (both of which are guys by the way!)…I did what was the hardest for me to do, what I feared the most, yet what I know in my heart was right. I had to be completely honest and tell Mr. Elevator Man that even though I like him and would like to get to know him better I can’t date, I can’t make out, I can’t do ANYTHING but just hangout for the next 4 ½ months.

Doing what is right is not always the easiest road to take, but it sure shows character. And to me, developing good character is more important than immediate gratification. I certainly feared that Mr. Elevator Man would think I was nuts and go away, but you know what? He didn’t. He actually respected my decision and asked if I liked hockey and want to watch with him sometime instead. How’s that for blowing old belief systems out the window eh? Here I am doing something I have never done before, and out comes a changed reality I have never had before. For those who don’t believe you can have your cake and eat it too…I beg to differ. Yes you can.

Do one thing a day that scares you? Check! And you know…when you get the mind out of the way, all things are possible. I dare you to try it.

Day 221: If You Are Not Doing This One Thing…You Are Insane

As you can see, I have switched to writing once a week now so that I can have more time to achieve the goals that I had originally set out to do…health, wealth, and relationships. When I started this project, I kind of jumped in with both feet very blindly and didn’t anticipate how much time and energy it would take. Not that I mind at all, I absolutely LOVE writing and I enjoy the fact that it has connected me with all of you out there in ways I never imagined…and I want to be doing a LOT more of it. HOWEVER, I had to take a look at my list of priorities and re-evaluate.

How do I do that? Test and measure. Is what I am doing now accomplishing what I set out to do? Is it taking me closer to or further from my original intention? The answer, at least for the time being, was further from. I spent more time writing than doing. So now I am doing the opposite. After all, my intention is to affect and inspire change through ACTION, not just write about it. Anyone can do that. It was an important and very valuable lesson I learned recently from a very smart business coach. Sounds like an obvious one, but it surprises me how few of us actually do it. Including me.

Without test and measure, you may as well call me insane because I would be expecting different results while doing the same darn thing. I’ve done that for such a long time already, and my life is a reflection of that. A little out of control. I am ready to move on and MAKE something different for myself. Notice I said MAKE.

Now the big question is…

…What would you like to MAKE for yourself?

Day 213: Are You Committed or Merely Interested?

In case you don't know, have a fear of heights. And a few years back I wanted to get over that fear, so I did what only seemed logical…I went skydiving while in Mexico. I found the nearest skydiving facility, paid my fee, and went up in the plane. That was the easy part. I did what’s called a tandem jump, which means I was strapped to the instructor. And thankfully so, because I screamed like a sissy girl on the way down and forgot that there was even a ripcord to pull. HA! Yeah, I am probably not the buddy you want when faced with a life-threatening event.

But even before that, before the jump, while I was still IN the plane I was thinking “Oh, this is going to be a piece of cake!” Boy was I wrong. I was doomed as soon as they opened the side door and I looked down.

Fear seized me and all I heard in my head was, “WHAT WAS I THINKING!?” Why would I voluntarily CHOOSE to hurtle myself out of a perfectly good plane and purposely fall to a possible impending doom? Surely I must be crazy. With a little coaxing though I was convinced to slowly crawl to the edge and step outside on the foot holding. I remember holding on for dear life saying “Oh my God! Oh my God! Oh my God!” And it was at that moment I had to decide…was I committed or was I just merely interested?

The Jump.

Now I have to admit, had I not been strapped to someone who was already committed to seeing me succeed I might have wimped out and said, “Wow, nice view!” and then crawled my sissy butt back into the plane. But no such luck. After I got coached and reminded of my “why” I wanted to jump, I shifted from the mentality of being just merely interested to fully committed… and I jumped. And let me tell you, once you commit to jumping, it’s not like you can exactly change your mind mid air. Well, I guess technically you can, but it is not going to help. There is no rewind button.

So why bring up the topic of “committed” versus “interested”?  Because it makes all the difference when wanting to accomplish a goal. Since the seminar, I have been forced to look over what it is I SAY I want for myself and what I have actually been DOING. You know what I found out? I haven’t been as committed as I thought I was on a lot of things; I’ve been merely interested. How do I know? Results. There is a different level of passion between commitment and interest, and it’s that level of passion that is the driving force between the dreaming and the having. Guess it is time for me to get back to the drawing board and get clear on what it is I REALLY want.

In the meantime I will be changing the format of this blog a little. Not majorly, just a little. What does this mean? I’ll still be writing but not every day as I had been. I AM still committed to writing; however, I am more committed to my health and wellbeing...and right now they are both battling for my time.

With that said…what are you saying you are committed to? Are you really?

Mission Accomplished!

Day 211: The Experiment

This past weekend I learned a LOT. One of the things I learned about was the power of words and their effect on our mind, our body, and our wellbeing on all levels. And it wasn’t “woo woo” talk either. There was actual scientific proof to back it up. Definitely not “woo”. Not that it really matters, as there are MANY things that occur that cannot be explained at this moment in time, but if you are like me…the scientific proof helps.

One of the things I learned, or rather re-learned, was something I first saw in the documentary “What the Bleep Do We Know”. It was about the impact of positive words versus negative words on water as described by Dr. Emoto; a theory I was introduced to nearly 10 years ago but only understood two days ago. If you don’t know what I am talking about, check out this video:

So I decided to get curious and test it for myself.

As you know (if you have been following since Day 1), I have an alkaline water machine. It works and I absolutely love it.  Today though, I wanted to try something different and wanted to if words really would impact my water. So I wrote “Love & Gratitude” on the bottom of my glass container and left it there for an hour. When I returned, this is what I saw:

Cool eh? Just think…if words have this much impact on my glass of water, then imagine the impact it has on us when our own bodies are made up of around 70% water. Makes you want to watch what you think about and say now doesn’t it?

Day 210: Have You Had Your Mind Blown Lately?

This past weekend was not your average weekend. At least for me it wasn’t.

I was invited to attend a personal/professional development workshop by a friend of a friend, and although I wasn’t really sure what to expect there I was at least wise enough to go with an open mind. What I didn’t realize was that I was about to have my mind blown. KER-POW!

The workshop I attended was called “Claim Your Competitive Edge” by Dov Baron. If you haven’t heard of it before, I highly suggest checking it out. If you have heard of it but haven’t gone yet, don’t wait…go. You won’t come out the same. I can promise you that.

I learned a LOT of things in the three-day intensive and experienced “AH HA!” after “AH HA!” I grew and expanded…and I don’t mean because I ate too many Tim Bits either. I mean my mind got stretched and I got IT…I REALLY got IT.

So here I am. And this time I am not just re-committing myself to my blog, I am re-committing myself to my LIFE. It’s time to get focused; I mean REALLY laser focused on what it is I want to create for myself and take all action that moves me in that direction. No longer do I wish to keep playing the crapshoot. It’s time to get ‘er done! Five more months to go…the countdown is on. And I do believe that these next five months are going to be the best most exciting times to come yet.

Hold onto your hats folks, we’re going for a ride!

Day 209: My Hiatus

It has been EXACTLY one month since I last wrote. I feel like I owe you an apology. Well actually, I owe us both one.

I know some of you have been wondering if I was ok, if I “fell off the wagon”, if I was going to return…or just what the heck happened. I assure you, I didn’t fall of the wagon - I am still single, I am still focused on improving my health bit by bit, and I am still committed to improving myself to be a more self-empowered woman. I guess you can say I was simply on “hiatus” or on a spiritual quest if you will…a return to myself and a return to truth.

The details of how I got here are long, so I will spare you for fear that you would end up like my massage clients…snoring. Instead I will keep it simple and say that I would like to re-commit myself to you, to me, and to this blog. Yes, that means I am back in the game. Thank you for bearing with me this far, I look forward to the next five months and what journey lies ahead!